Joy forever

Joy Where There is Nothing When you can find joy where there is nothing,
You can find joy in anything.
Place no conditions on happiness,
And it is always yours.

Embrace the uncertainty of the future,
For within that uncertainty is limitless,
Fertile ground for creating beauty, joy and fulfillment.
When you no longer need security, you will indeed have it.

Accept that you do not know,
And there is no limit to what you can learn.
Let go of the need to possess,
And there is no end to what you can have.

There is a universe filled with beauty
In each tiny grain of sand.
There is a lifetime of experience
In every small moment of the day.

Be true to your purpose and fulfillment will find you.
With what you have to give,
You can reach all you could ever imagine to seek.

See the joy where there is nothing,
And everywhere else as well.
Live the beauty that is now,
And truly know the abundant richness that is life.

Steps To Happiness

Steps To Happiness…

Everybody Knows: You can't be all things to all people.

You can't do all things at once.

You can't do all things equally well.

You can't do all things better than everyone else.

Your humanity is showing just like everyone else's.

So:You have to find out who you are, and be that.

You have to decide what comes first, and do that.

You have to discover your strengths, and use them.

You have to learn not to compete with others,Because no one else is in the contest of *being you*.

Then:You will have learned to accept your own uniqueness.

You will have learned to set priorities and make decisions.

You will have learned to live with your limitations.

You will have learned to give yourself the respect that is due.

And you'll be a most vital mortal.

Dare To Believe:That you are a wonderful, unique person.

That you are a once-in-all-history event.

That it's more than a right, it's your duty, to be who you are.

That life is not a problem to solve, but a gift to cherish.

And we'll be able to stay one up on what used to get us.

May God Bless you and keep you safe.

Father-in- law --- Advise

A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a
successful marriage. Would it be please possible for you to share
with me your secret?"
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The father-in-law beamed and advised, "Yes, never criticize your wife for
her shortcomings or when she has done something wrong. Always bear in mind and thank God that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she has you and she could not find a better husband than yourself."

What is Likeability Factor

For years we've heard that it's more important to be respected than liked. Yet study after study is proving conventional wisdom wrong -- finding instead that the road to success is more often a series of popularity contests.

Research at Columbia University shows that jobs, pay raises and promotions are more apt to be awarded based on a worker's charisma than on his or her academic background or professional qualifications.

Outplacement firm Challenger, Gray and Christmas found that during corporate downsizings, hiring and firing decisions boil down to how well people are liked by their supervisors. "It's not enough just to do a good job; you have to be likeable in the eyes of your employer," says company president James Challenger.

The good news is likability is a skill that can be learned. After two years and a quarter million pages of research, Tim Sanders, leadership coach at Yahoo! and author of "The Likeability Factor," has unlocked the secrets to having a magnetic personality.

"When people encounter you, they subconsciously ask themselves four questions that determine your likability or 'L-Factor'," Sanders explains. "First, they seek friendliness. Then, they ask themselves if you are relevant to them. Next, they ponder whether you have empathy for them. Finally, they ask themselves if you are 'real' -- that is, authentic and honest. If the answers to those four questions are affirmative, you receive a high Likeability Factor."

To up your "L-factor," Sanders offers a four-step process:

Step One: Increase Your Friendliness
Your friendliness is a function of your ability to communicate openness and welcome to others. Make an effort to greet people cheerfully, smile often and adopt a friendly mindset that you communicate through positive body language and words.

Step Two: Raise Your Relevance
Your relevance has to do with your connection to others' interests, wants and needs. The more relevant you are, the more people like you. Relevance has three levels:

# Contact. The odds are, likability will increase with "functional distance," such as sitting next to someone at a party or living nearby.
# Mutual Interests. Having common interests or experiences makes people feel validated and generates a sense of community and personal respect.
# Value. Relevance is strongest when the value you offer meets another person's wants and needs. This produces positive attitudes in the person's mind and contributes to your allure.

To become more relevant, find ways to connect with the interests and needs of others. Know what they're passionate about outside of work. Be aware of their emotional needs and willing to respond to them.

Step Three: Show Empathy

Your empathy reflects your capacity to see things from another person's point of view and to experience his or her feelings yourself. When you connect with someone's feelings, and they believe you're "with them," it delivers a psychological hug. Ask yourself, do I:
# Know how that person is feeling about his or her life situation these days?
# Understand what it must feel like to perform the person's tasks day after day -- be it caring for an elderly relative at home or managing a heavy workload?
# Share the same emotions about key issues?

By making yourself more emotionally available, your connection with people -- and your likability -- will grow dramatically.


Step Four: Keep It Real
Realness is consistency between your beliefs and actions. To be true to yourself and others, you need to:
# Do what you want to be doing in life.
# Live with purpose.
# Commit to the principles of your work.
# Be the same person on the outside as you are on the inside.
# Be direct and honest with others.

The more you live by your values, the more your perceived realness will elevate. Conversely, if people decide you're not real, they will discount your friendliness, relevance and empathy -- and probably dislike you.

"Basically, likability comes down to creating positive emotional experiences in others," Sanders concludes. "When you make others feel good, they tend to gravitate to you."

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You still have hope

If you can look at the sunset and smile, then you still have hope...

If you can find beauty in the colors of a small flower, then you still have hope...

If you can find pleasure in the movement of a butterfly, then you still have hope...

If the smile of a child can still warm your heart, then you still have hope...

If you can see the good in other people, then you still have hope...

If the rain breaking on a roof top can still lull you to sleep, then you still have hope...

If the sight of a rainbow still makes you stop and stare in wonder, then you still have hope...

If the soft fur of a favored pet still feels pleasant under your fingertips,
then you still have hope...

If you meet new people with a trace of excitement and optimism, then you still have hope...

If you give people the benefit of a doubt, then you still have hope...

If you still offer your hand in friendship to others that have touched your life,
then you still have hope...

If receiving an unexpected card or letter still brings a pleasant surprise,
then you still have hope...

If the suffering of others still fills you with pain and frustration,
then you still have hope...

If you refuse to let a friendship die, or accept that it must end,
then you still have hope...

If you look forward to a time or place of quiet and reflection,
then you still have hope...

If you still watch love stories or want the endings to be happy,
then you still have hope...

If you can look to the past and smile, then you still have hope...

If, when faced with the bad, when told everything is futile, you can still
look up and end the conversation with the phrase... "yeah....BUT.."
then you still have hope...


Hope is such a marvelous thing. It bends, it twists, it sometimes hides,
but rarely does it break...

It sustains us when nothing else can...
It gives us reason to continue and courage to move ahead,
when we tell ourselves we'd rather give in...

Hope puts a smile on our face when the heart cannot manage...
Hope puts our feet on the path when our eyes cannot see it...
Hope moves us to act when
our souls are confused of the direction....

Hope is a wonderful thing, something to be cherished and nurtured,
and something that will refresh us in return...

And it can be found in each of us,
and it can bring light into the darkest of places...


Never lose hope... NEVER!!!

Let me love you

Once upon a time, there was once a guy who was very much in love with this girl. This romantic guy folded 1,000 pieces of papercranes as a gift to his girl. Although, at that time he was just a small executive in his company, his future doesn't seemed too bright, they were very happy together. Until one day, his girl told him she was going to Paris and will never come back. She also told him that she cannot visualise any future for the both of them, so let's go their own ways there and then... heartbroken, the guy agreed.

When he regained his confidence, he worked hard day and night, slogging his body and mind just to make something out of himself. Finally with all these hard work and with the help of friends, this guy had set up his own company...

"You never fail until you stop trying." he always told himself. "I must make it in life!"

One rainy day, while this guy was driving, he saw an elderly couple sharing an umbrella in the rain walking to some destination. Even with the umbrella, they were still drenched. It didn't take him long to realise those were his ex-girlfriend' s parents. With a heart in getting back at them, he drove slowly beside the couple, wanting them to spot him in his luxury sedan. He wanted them to know that he wasn't the same anymore, he had his own company, car, condo, etc. He had made it in life!

Before the guy can realise, the couple was walking towards a cemetary,and he got out of his car and followed them...and he saw his ex-girlfriend, a photograph of her smiling sweetly as ever at him from her tombstone... and he saw his precious papercranes in a bottle placed beside her tomb. Her parents saw him. He walked over and asked them why this had happened. They explained, she did not leave for France at all. She was stricken ill with cancer. In her heart, she had believed that he will make it someday, but she did not want her illness to be his obstacle ... therefore she had chosen to leave him.

She had wanted her parents to put his papercranes beside her, because, if the day comes when fate brings him to her again he can take some of those back with him. The guy just wept ...the worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them but knowing you can't have them and will never see them again.

Not to give up in life

Some of the Inspiring Quotes which tell not to give up in life so you can learn something from these Quotes

1) Never expect things to happen..
struggle and make them happen.
never expect yourself to be given a good value create a value of your own

2) If a drop of water falls in lake there is no identity.But if it falls on a leaf of lotus it shine like a pearl. so choose the best place where you would shine..

3) Falling down is not defeat...defeat is when your refuse to get up...

4) Ship is always safe at shore... but is is not built for it

5) When your successful your well wishers know who you are when you are unsuccessful you know who your well wishers are

6) It is great confidence in a friend to tell him your faults; greater to tell him/her

7) "To the world you might be one person,
but to one person you just might be the world

8) "Even the word 'IMPOSSIBLE' says 'I M POSSIBLE' "

9) Effort is important, but knowing where to make an effort in your life makes all the difference.

May ALLAH / God Bless You All,

Never take some one for granted,Hold every person Close to your Heart because you might wake up one day and realise that you have lost a diamond while you were too busy collecting stones." Remember this always in life.